Who Controls How You're Depicted On Social Media?
Social media should be an extension of you, not an alter ego that you desire people to see you as. How one is perceived on social media is a result of the one posting not the one watching. We control how we want people to see us. Therefore, I can't fault someone who thinks my life is great when I've never been transparent and shown my imperfections.
It's not my job to condemn someone for assuming one thing about me when I've never allowed them to see or know something beyond my social media. If social media is the only way someone can identify with you, then make sure you accurately and honestly depict who you are. By doing this you can't blame someone for "incorrectly" labeling you. Whether we like it or not, how we present ourselves is how we are judged, so leave no room for misjudgment and present yourself according to the word of God.
Now, if you have realized that your life really can't be aligned to God's truth then take time to step away from social media and allow God to do a work within you. Don't make up things or try to deceive people for likes, followers, and friend requests because the worst thing in the world is for someone to see that your social media persona doesn't align with who you are in person.
Social media is our greatest way of ministering and establishing a platform for Christ, so be intentional and consistent. Titus 2 gives a great illustration of how we should consistently carry ourselves and align what we say and do with the word of God.
“And show your own self in all respects to be a pattern and a model of good deeds and works, teaching what is unadulterated, showing gravity [having the strictest regard for truth and purity of motive], with dignity and seriousness. And let your instruction be sound and fit and wise and wholesome, vigorous and irrefutable and above censure, so that the opponent may be put to shame, finding nothing discrediting or evil to say about us.”
Titus 2:7-8 AMP
Reading this makes me think that if we used social media to reflect this lifestyle, more people may be interested in seeking Christ. Don't get me wrong I know the lifestyle of being a believer is not easy, but allowing someone to see how you stood on the word of God during midst of your storm, not being easily moved, speaks volumes in terms of how God can strengthen us and help us to make it through. Revelation 12:11 tells us that one way we overcome the enemy is by the word of our testimony, so understand that your transparency is often the greatest way for people to connect with you and see how Christ is moving in your life.
Am I saying go on a rant and pour out your deepest darkest secrets??? Absolutely not! I am saying that if given the opportunity, it’s better to be genuine and authentic rather than trying to be someone completely different than who you are in person. Like anything, you must check your intentions, use wisdom, and allow God to tell you which part of your story he wants you to share. I learned this lesson the hard way. I can honestly say I suffered from the Keeping It Real syndrome which ultimately turned into Keeping It Real Foolish because what I said didn’t align with God’s truth. I used social media to “speak my mind” and spew words of hatred, tried to make myself look better than who I was in person, and tried to create an identity that had no connection with who I really was or who Christ needed me to be. Years later, I’ve found that giving my social media to Christ protects me from ill spoken words simply because I made the conscious decision to first commit my life to Christ and then allow my platform to become an extension of that life!
Everyone will not agree with what you say, but I guarantee they won’t question your credibility because they will know who you stand for on and off social media. You’d be surprised by how many people will read your posts and see your pictures and never say a word until they meet you in person to confirm that you have accurately and honestly reflected who you are in person with who you are on social media. So next time you decide to post something ask yourself, Is this the person people will see when they meet me???