There’s this little myth floating around that tells singles that we are ready for marriage when we take care of ourselves mentally and emotionally, workout, eat healthy, get our finances in order, walk in purpose, travel, be social, and live a life yielded to God. What’s not being told is that marriage is not a reward or a destination. It’s an addition to the plan God has already established for our life. It has no deadline and any healthy spirit-led person knows that it will happen when God says it’s time. Of course anyone can be married, but there is a very big difference between a union formed under God’s covering and one created by our own desire.
I say this to remind singles to not be distracted by what has not yet been released in our lives. I know it’s not easy and having everyone tell us what to do to make it to marriage becomes a distraction from what God may need us to focus on in this season.
Heart to Heart: I know what it’s like to see others experience their love story, but please don’t allow anyone to make you feel as if you are the reason for your singleness. Singleness is not a curse, punishment, or indication that something is wrong with you. I know many who are married and were very far from prepared when it happened and then there are singles who are thriving with not even one prospect. Both cases are gentle reminders that as much as we would like to think we control the situation, those submitted to God know that it often boils down to God’s timing.
I wish I could give you concrete answers as to why the timing differs, but all I can say is that even God’s timing is intentional and related to the plan he has for our lives. Understand that as people we all have assignments that must be accomplished individually. For those who are called to marriage, they are given a new assignment that involves another person. Together they will continue their journey towards fulfilling God’s purpose. So, once again, don’t panic, don’t grow weary, don’t allow others to make think less of yourself, and don’t be anxious or stress yourself out trying to make marriage happen. Remember the purpose of marriage and invest in yourself to be the best for you and the assignments God needs to fulfill through you!